Beautiful, Grace-Filled Grief

It’s a tricky thing, this grief stuff.  When a baby goes home to heaven too soon, it’s just backwards, wouldn’t you agree?  Parents are supposed to outlive their children.  Sometimes – more often than we realize – they don’t.  What tragic, ugly grief.  Yet something beautiful, grace-filled if we let it. Perhaps.

I can’t say I’ve always looked at grief this way.  I know while I was in the trenches of my own grief, the darkness shadowed any inkling of grace.  What I now realize is that grace had been with me all along, amidst the darkest of days.

Are you walking a journey of grief?  Are you facing something so difficult, so gut-wrenchingly painful that the thought of beauty and grace seem to be nothing more than an elusive dream?  Might I speak a word of truth into your heart today, sweet friend…

Even in the darkness, there is light…

“…God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.”

1 John 4:5

Beyond the ashes is a thing of beauty…

“…to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion —
to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning…”

Isaiah 61:2-3

There is purpose in this pain…

“Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me has actually served to advance the gospel.”

Philippians 1:12

As I contemplate this grief, I marvel at His wonders.  Such beautiful, grace-filled grief is illustrated at the cross of Jesus Christ.

A death undeserved.

Beautiful mercy lavished upon.

Sin and death overcome by such marvelous grace.

So great is His unfailing love (Lamentations 3: 32).  Grateful for this beautiful, grace-filled grief that brought me back to my God who had never let me go.


About Teske Drake

Teske Drake (PhD, Iowa State University) is mommy to three babies in heaven, mom to two on earth, and wife to her one and only. She is the cofounder of Mommies with Hope, a biblically based support group for women who have experienced infant loss. Find out more at

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Women Redeemed Webcast

Monday, September 17th we’ll be joined by Kim, Teske, and Dawn. Each has a story to tell. 3 Women Redeemed from the shame, hurt and grief. Together they share encouragement and advice about how to survive life’s toughest issues: abortion, miscarriage/infant loss, and abuse. Three women and three books, offering hope to women who are desperately seeking support, understanding and healing.

Normally at Grace Café, we would spend an hour with each woman, but we’ll save that for another time. Today they’re coming to briefly tell their stories and how their lives are intertwined to create a webcast on Thursday, September 20 that will allow women to come together in a non-threatening, open and loving environment to share their struggles and fears in order to move toward healing and hope.

So why is it important to discuss these topics? Here are just a few of the staggering statistics on the topics:


  • It is estimated that 13% of abortions are performed on self-described ‘born again’ or evangelical Christians.
  • The Alan Guttmacher Institute (AGI) reports that 46% of aborting women identify themselves as Protestant and an additional 27% identify themselves as Catholic. If true, these statistics reveal that more than 70% of all abortions in the United States are performed on Christian women.
  • 85% of women say abortions cause mental health issues, including sorry, sadness, guilt, regret, grief, and disappointment.

Miscarriage and Infant Loss:

  • The National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences reports that as many as 31% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss.
  • An estimated 19% of all the adult population has experienced the death of a child.
  • An in-utero death after 20 weeks is considered a stillbirth.
  • A stillbirth occurs once every twenty minutes.
  • Approximately 26,000 pregnancies end in stillbirth every year.


  • The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that 80% of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder. It’s proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow women into adulthood.
  • 90% of victims know their abuser. Commonly reported abusers are fathers, stepfathers, brothers, uncles, and grandfathers. Other abusers are babysitters, teachers, and neighbors.
  • 80% of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder. 1/3 of people who are sexually abused become abusers themselves.

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