Beautiful, Grace-Filled Grief

It’s a tricky thing, this grief stuff.  When a baby goes home to heaven too soon, it’s just backwards, wouldn’t you agree?  Parents are supposed to outlive their children.  Sometimes – more often than we realize – they don’t.  What tragic, ugly grief.  Yet something beautiful, grace-filled if we let it. Perhaps.

I can’t say I’ve always looked at grief this way.  I know while I was in the trenches of my own grief, the darkness shadowed any inkling of grace.  What I now realize is that grace had been with me all along, amidst the darkest of days.

Are you walking a journey of grief?  Are you facing something so difficult, so gut-wrenchingly painful that the thought of beauty and grace seem to be nothing more than an elusive dream?  Might I speak a word of truth into your heart today, sweet friend…

Even in the darkness, there is light…

“…God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.”

1 John 4:5

Beyond the ashes is a thing of beauty…

“…to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion —
to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning…”

Isaiah 61:2-3

There is purpose in this pain…

“Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me has actually served to advance the gospel.”

Philippians 1:12

As I contemplate this grief, I marvel at His wonders.  Such beautiful, grace-filled grief is illustrated at the cross of Jesus Christ.

A death undeserved.

Beautiful mercy lavished upon.

Sin and death overcome by such marvelous grace.

So great is His unfailing love (Lamentations 3: 32).  Grateful for this beautiful, grace-filled grief that brought me back to my God who had never let me go.


About Teske Drake

Teske Drake (PhD, Iowa State University) is mommy to three babies in heaven, mom to two on earth, and wife to her one and only. She is the cofounder of Mommies with Hope, a biblically based support group for women who have experienced infant loss. Find out more at

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  1. At the hands of a rapist…there was deep shame.
    From the sounds of the whirring from a death machine.. there was intense guilt.
    Within the trust in someone I loved came abuse that attacked THE GIFT and shattered me.
    At the graveside of Suicide Loss…I felt no beauty.
    Beyond the ashes is a thing of beauty…broken yet surviving.
    ? Redeemed thru HIS GRACE!
    I am in great NEED of HIM. ?

    Thank you Teske for sharing your redemption story with me…with all of us! Saying so gives me HOPE.
    Bee Blessed ~Mary

  2. Mary ~ What courage to share your story! Thank you, precious friend…I consider it a great honor to hear your story and to be vulnerable WITH you. Yes, you are surviving…God has many precious promises for you and He wants you to live; nor merely exist, but LIVE! Because Jesus LIVES! We all need Him so desperately and I pray that He come quickly to your aid…for healing, for restoration, and to give you HOPE.

    Sweet Blessings,

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