Abortion, Sarcasm, and Anger

I recently celebrated the happy news that my book, Cradle My Heart, Finding God’s Love After Abortion is now published! I’m just thrilled to have this capstone to eight years of work on the book–so many people worked hard and prayed with me and for me to get this project to this point. And all of us share a desire to see women walking in spiritual freedom after abortion has hurt our hearts. That is my motive and that is my prayer–that God would be glorified by the restoration of broken hearts. I want everyone to know God’s love and to follow our Lord into the healing that his presence brings. 

In contrast, I also write about abortion as a social issue and I’m still shocked and amazed at the level of sarcasm in the abortion conversation. One of the biggest benefits of healing after abortion is that your anger recedes. There are many steps in the process of moving from anger to peace after abortion, and I think one of the most important steps is embracing the loss of control. So many of my attitudes when I chose abortion and when I tried to justify it afterwards were based on a generalized anger toward things I could not control in my life. It didn’t solve anything to be angry toward people who let me down or toward my circumstances which made me feel trapped. But anger can fuel your energy and serve as a motivator. Anger can give you a sense of power and help you feel stronger than you actually are. Anger can mask the pain of the grief you don’t dare allow yourself to feel.

If you are troubled by anger today don’t be deterred and don’t give way to sarcasm. Take heart and stand in God’s grace and truth. I’m encouraged by Proverbs 12:18: “Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.” The angry rhetoric that surrounds the abortion debate can quickly slide into sarcasm. And if you are surrounded by sarcastic people–especially on this issue–think about your own thirst for wisdom, your own need for truth. This is about so much more than a battle for our rights! This is a battle for your heart, soul, and mind. Turn to the one who is Wisdom and who can comfort your hurting heart.

About Kim Ketola:
Kim Ketola is a sought-after writer and motivational speaker with the Ruth Graham and Friends conference. After thirty years in the broadcasting industry, she founded a nonprofit organization through which she presents professionally accredited conferences to equip counselors and help individuals recover from the emotional and spiritual wounds of abortion.
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Women Redeemed Webcast

Monday, September 17th we’ll be joined by Kim, Teske, and Dawn. Each has a story to tell. 3 Women Redeemed from the shame, hurt and grief. Together they share encouragement and advice about how to survive life’s toughest issues: abortion, miscarriage/infant loss, and abuse. Three women and three books, offering hope to women who are desperately seeking support, understanding and healing.

Normally at Grace Café, we would spend an hour with each woman, but we’ll save that for another time. Today they’re coming to briefly tell their stories and how their lives are intertwined to create a webcast on Thursday, September 20 that will allow women to come together in a non-threatening, open and loving environment to share their struggles and fears in order to move toward healing and hope.

So why is it important to discuss these topics? Here are just a few of the staggering statistics on the topics:

Abortion:

  • It is estimated that 13% of abortions are performed on self-described ‘born again’ or evangelical Christians.
  • The Alan Guttmacher Institute (AGI) reports that 46% of aborting women identify themselves as Protestant and an additional 27% identify themselves as Catholic. If true, these statistics reveal that more than 70% of all abortions in the United States are performed on Christian women.
  • 85% of women say abortions cause mental health issues, including sorry, sadness, guilt, regret, grief, and disappointment.

Miscarriage and Infant Loss:

  • The National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences reports that as many as 31% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss.
  • An estimated 19% of all the adult population has experienced the death of a child.
  • An in-utero death after 20 weeks is considered a stillbirth.
  • A stillbirth occurs once every twenty minutes.
  • Approximately 26,000 pregnancies end in stillbirth every year.

Abuse:

  • The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that 80% of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder. It’s proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow women into adulthood.
  • 90% of victims know their abuser. Commonly reported abusers are fathers, stepfathers, brothers, uncles, and grandfathers. Other abusers are babysitters, teachers, and neighbors.
  • 80% of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder. 1/3 of people who are sexually abused become abusers themselves.

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